More Than Money
Issue #28

Who Knows You're Rich?

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“The Right to Know”

Money is power. In personal relationships, it throws the relationship out of balance when one partner has significantly more money than the other, especially when the wealthier one is a woman and the less wealthy partner is a man.

When I meet a potential partner, I always reveal my wealth status early on, but not directly. I embed it in conversation. For example, I recently started dating a guy. We were talking about our kids and I mentioned that I've told my kids that they don't need to worry about their retirement funds. Another time, I said that my son was pushing me to not be so tight about money, saying, "You're the only one I know who has millions of dollars . . ."

Anyone you're dating has a right to know. If I had a ten-year-old at home I would let my date know, because my being a parent would influence what our relationship could be. If I had been diagnosed with cancer three months earlier or if I were diabetic I would reveal the potential for a shortened lifespan very early in a relationship. People have a right to know and judge what they're getting themselves into. I don't want to be rejected later when my heart has opened. It's better to reveal financial information before I've gotten too involved.

- anonymous author

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