is power. In personal relationships, it throws the relationship
out of balance when one partner has significantly more money
than the other, especially when the wealthier one is a woman
and the less wealthy partner is a man.
I meet a potential partner, I always reveal my wealth status
early on, but not directly. I embed it in conversation.
For example, I recently started dating a guy. We were talking
about our kids and I mentioned that I've told my kids that
they don't need to worry about their retirement funds. Another
time, I said that my son was pushing me to not be so tight
about money, saying, "You're the only one I know who has
millions of dollars . . ."
you're dating has a right to know. If I had a ten-year-old
at home I would let my date know, because my being a parent
would influence what our relationship could be. If I had
been diagnosed with cancer three months earlier or if I
were diabetic I would reveal the potential for a shortened
lifespan very early in a relationship. People have a right
to know and judge what they're getting themselves into.
I don't want to be rejected later when my heart has opened.
It's better to reveal financial information before I've
gotten too involved.
- anonymous author
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